{Date #4}

The Background story-- we met online. And we didn't really talk that much at all. We were texting a bit yesterday, and he asked if I wanted to hang out, something low key chill, so I said why not drinks. So I have to say before I started just dating for really the fun and enjoyment of it, I would have NEVER gone on a date with this guy. Hes a bit more of a bad boy then I would go for. But he seemed nice, but he has a lot of tattoos but still knows how to dress, from what I would tell from pictures. He's also originally from Miami, FL, and he also works A LOT so I knew he was maybe kinda just looking for people to hang out with. And my night was free so I went with it...


The Guy--
Age: 32
Job: Something to do with stocks...
What he wore: I have to say hes been the best dressed guy yet. He for sure knew style. He was wearing sweater with button up under, it was kinda funky, but for sure a good look, nice jeans! And he had a good grey coat on over. And then he was wearing cute black glasses (I have a MAJOR thing with boys in cute black glasses). 
Height: I normally haven't talked about this because all the other guys were pretty tall, and I do like that. But he was pretty short..... :/


The Date-- So like I said we met at a local bar for drinks, well I drank he did not, this is kinda maybe the weird part...he doesn't drink because he went through AA, but that was awhile ago he said and everyone he hangs out with drinks and he goes out a lot with people drinking so he didn't mind meeting up for "drinks". So like I said this is something I never would have done last year...but who am I to judge? And he could of lied about why he wasn't drinking, but I give him props for being who he is.We ended up meeting at one bar and walking to another one that was less crowded. I think I was going into this "date" it not being a date, because he wasn't really my type. But we got into conversation right away. And maybe it was the fact I hadn't eaten much all day and so when I had 2 beers I was having fun fast, but no it really was fun. We had a lot to talk about and he seemed genuinely interested in knowing about me. It was a short date, but I felt feeling happy and that I stepped outside my "norm" to just ENJOY life. But he was kind of one of those guys I could explain myself to and he got me. Like we were talking about dating and I kinda spilled the beans about this blog, and he thought it was a fun idea. I didn't explain it all, he knows that I date and blog about it....We talked about God a bit, and church. He doesn't go, but believes in God. Most of what we talked about we just seemed to click and understand. Hes for sure not "my type" hes probably a bit more wild and free spirited. But then at the same time he has that good job hes committed to and thrives for. BUT it was fun. And this is what this is all about!!


Five things I learned about him--
1. He likes to shop! :)
2. Doesn't drink, but likes to go out.
3.  Likes all kinds of food! (its also good to go on dates with guys that like different foods!)
4. He owns a boat.
5. He has over 2000 songs on his iPhone. lol 




The verdict-- I will admit there was some type of connection there, I don't know if it will be something where we are just good friends, but I can see hanging out with him again. And I already know he wants to hang out with me again, because he texted me last night saying he had fun and asked when we could hang out again! (but I already kinda have another date planned for today, ekk so he will have to wait...)


P.S. Its hard work keeping up with sooooo many guys! And the rate I am going I am gonna have 26 dates done by may!! 

{date #3}

The Background story-- We met online....we have been messaging back in forth since right after Christmas. So I wasn't sure if he was gonna ever ask me out on a date. And we really didn't talk that much so I didn't know a whole lot about him, which I think I kinda like. It's nice to go on a first date and really learn all about them then. But he finally sent a message saying he was really busy but if we could grab coffee sometime this week. So we sent it up for Saturday afternoon. Its funny because I use to always do first date coffee dates, but its been while since I have had one...


The Guy--
Age: 29
Job: Sales and his own company remolding houses
What he wore: When he walked in he was wearing a nice coat and scarf. And then after taking that off he was wearing a nice sweater and okay jeans, and then he was wearing like nee hiking boots, which didn't go with the rest, and really it didn't even bother me, which was weird. But then funny story towards more the end of the date he was like, so my boots, hes like I normally don't wear these out, hes like I normally am wearing real shoes, but I just got these and with my hiking trip coming up I need to break them in. Hes like I swear I have normal shoes. It made me laugh!


The Date: So I again wasn't all that excited about this date! I was really tired right before going because my lil bro had spent the night with me the night before and all morning with me, so I was busy busy. And then there was the outfit mess, most of the clothes I love were in the dryer, and its cold outside, and its just a coffee date so I didn't even feel cute with what I was wearing. But I went with it. He also gets points because he picked a local coffee place, and I LOVE Starbucks but its really not good for a first date because they are normally really busy. So this local place was great, and there was no one there. So we ordered coffee, just plain, and its funny because he said hes not much of a coffee drinker, and he puts milk and sugar in his coffee, where I am just a milk and coffee girl. But then we sat dawn and just got right into talking, and talked non stop for the next 2 hours. It was just one of those really nice times where we both had so much to talk about with each other, and he respond back to what I was talking about and I was able to relate somewhat to his stuff and understand what he was talking about. It went by really last. We talked a lot about family and work. He also has become a big traveler, and so he told me about trips and trips coming up.  We both come from big families where growing up we didn't have a lot. I know that some day he wants to settle down and have a family. He also use to go to crossroads. So that's always a fun connection.. we just really talked talked talked, and laughed and had fun. But like I said it went by so quick that the lady working there had to tell us it was almost closing time, we had been there for 2 hours. So we walked out and hugged good bye. And went out ways... so far I haven't heard from him, but he did say life was really busy and he wasn't much of a texter....


Five things I learned about him--
1. His hobby has been remolding houses to flip. (ummm total dream to have a guy like that)
2. He likes to travel and making 2012 a year of traveling. 
3. He has a big family.
4. He would rather have a happy great life then be rich.
5. He likes playing sports but not watching (score!)

Memorable Conversation-- 
The story about his boots....go read it!

The Verdict--  
I hope there will be a second date. I had a lot of fun just sitting drinking coffee with him so I know that anything else would be fun. I really don't know what he is looking for right now, so we will see what happens. But yes I would for sure go on a another date with him... Oh and if you haven't already like me on Facebook and I will keep you update with all that goes on. Like if he calls or text for a 2nd date! 

A new shirt

Because of this blog I thought this shirt was a good fit. :)

Update on guy #1

I looked super cute on the date!

So if your friends with me on facebook you know that Friday night I went on a date with guy #1. But back up a bit, the rule is I can't call or text him after the date to ask him for a second date, so as much as I was trying to enjoy it all, I wanted so bad on Tues for him to call or text...and he did both! And he asked me out for either Friday or Sat night. I had plans for Sat night, so I said yes for Friday night, and we went to Comedy place. It was REALLY fun, and then we went and had a few drink at a bar, and it was just a really good time. I was happy, so then Sat night a group of friends were going out to celebrate a friends birthday and I invited him to come, and that's when things changed. I am a very social person, I like hanging with friends, old and new. Well he just didn't fit in with my friends, and was very awkward about it all, he even had is friend with him and was weird...And I can't deal with that. But to not go into so much detail, there will not be a 3rd date with him. Things didn't end so well....So lesson learned, if I am interested in a guy its better to bring them around friends sooner rather then later to see how he is socially. :) On to more dates.....

{date #2}

The Background story-- This was another online dating guy. We briefly talked and texted for a few days, and he seemed pretty interesting. To be honest I didn't think he was the cutest but I am going for new experiences and sometimes pictures aren't always the best....He is moving to cincinnati in a few weeks and was just in town this week to look at places to live. So he at first suggested we grab drinks last night, and then when we were talking earlier in the day he asked what I was doing, and he suggested maybe going to the park, and I didn't really think about it at first all that much and said yes, but then realized after partying pretty hard the night before going to the park was not a good idea. So we deiced to get dinner later. 


The Guy--
 Age: 27
Job: Engineer (if you didn't notice there is a pattern from the last guy...)
What he wore--This is where the pattern ends.  He was wearing a coat, that was pretty geeky, and not so good jeans, okay shoes if the outfit was different, the only nice part was he had on a nice black button down under the ugly coat. ( I know it might be mean, but if you can't meet a certain level of dressing at the age of 27, then I know we wont work, I don't need jcrew model styling, but it needs to be a lil better then that)

Date night outfit.

The Date-- So I wasn't excited about this date, at first on Saturday when he suggested getting drinks he seemed pretty cool, and I was kinda excited, but it seemed the more we talked on Sunday a bit the more weird he felt to me. And I was also really just tired, and the thought of talking about myself and coming up with questions if needed seemed tiring. So we met at the pub and ended up walking across the street to another. He was nice, he really was. There was stuff to talk about, I mean its a first date its hard to not have something to talk about, but to be honest, he was just boring. And he wasn't funny, like I am trying to remember if I laughed at all the whole time (that's bad). Its one of those dates I can't explain, there was just no connection. It was a VERY short date. I didn't order a beer with dinner, because I drank the night before, and wasn't in the mood for it, so he asked after dinner if I normally drink, kinda asking  if I wanted to get some drinks, and I told him I normally do.  But 1. I was REALLY tired, and by that point a bit bored so I wasn't in the mood for continuing on when I knew this was not going to ever be something. So I politely said no, explaining I was just too worn out and wouldn't be fun. He then asked if I had fun, which seriously what was I suppose to say, no? So I of course said yea, did you? And he was like yea but it was way too short...which then I felt kinda bad. But then we walked back to the car, and said bye and I could tell he was gonna try to go in for a kiss, so I gave him a side hug instead. It was bad. I couldn't kiss him (and that's saying something...)


Five things I learned about him--
1. He just got a new job, explains the move.
2. He grew up not far from where my family in IL lives..
3.He went to the same college as my dad for the same degree.
4. He lived in Atlanta the last 5 years for grad school.
5. He is a fan of football, but doesn't let it take the lead on life.

Memorable Conversation-- 
 When I told him about me being too tired to do anything else he said " I can help you stay awake" with the weird smile on his face...

The Verdict--
There will NOT be a second date. No there will not. Its funny because on all the first dates I have been on there's only a few that I have said I do not want a second date...I mean there's been some I wasn't so sure about, but went on a second just to see, but to know FOR SURE on the first, not so many.

{date #1}

The Background story--
We met online(this isn't a new thing for me, online dating) we actually talked briefly awhile back, he asked me to meet up for drinks a few times, but I think I was more interested in someone else at the time..so I said no and then we never talked again after I turned him down a few times..So then I saw his profile again on the site last week and thought hey maybe he's still interested. I was right, because right away he said lets meet up finally for a quick bite.

The Guy--
Age: 27
Job: Engineer
What he wore-- Nice coat, sweater with a button down under it. Nice jeans and shoes. Over all good!

The Date--

The date night outfit

So he asked me via message on the dating site if Monday night would work for a quick dinner, I being my new dating self said SURE! And then this is where it all starts to go down hill....because he said what about CHIPOTLE for dinner! Chipotle for a first DATE?!?!?! WHAT!?!?! So dear blog its a good thing I have you because seriously I think I would have made up a excuse to not go on this date if I didn't know that this would at least be a good story to tell. Because seriously Chipotle?? Oh what has gone wrong with guys!! But I agreed and one of the rules is not changing the place, so I kicked my feet and complained a lot about it today and went with it. And I have to say I wasn't excited about this date AT ALL. And did not seeing anything coming out of this. And then he was 5 min late, which just kinda annoys me. Side story this is the WORST part of online dating is that first min of meeting so waiting to meet them any sec is no good, so then 5 min seems like FOREVER. But back to the date, he came 5ish min late, and then it all kinda just went great. He was cute, its always a little weird to meet someone who you have only seen pictures of, but it was good. And he was dressed nice and had a good smile. We had a good time talking while we were in line, he made a comment about someones clothing choice who was also in line, and if you know me at all you know I love people watching and talking about what the hell people wear out of the house, so that made me laugh. I also remember when I would look at him while we were in line talking, he was smiling at me a lot. Which is just cute? right? Then there was the part I was a little worried about, if he was going to pay, because he did pick chipotle for dinner, but he was good and paid. So points for him! And then we really had a lot to talk about, so much so that I hardly ate much because we were talking. That's the fun part about first dates, the learning and talking to someone new. And then I was kinda worried because he was all done and I didn't want the date to be over..... Luckily he suggested we go grab drinks down the street. So even though it was VERY cold, we walked and talked. He bought me a beer, and was surprised at my drink of choice being Bud light, what can I say. :) We joked around a lot with each other, me being my sarcastic self and he totally understanding I was giving him a hard time. We picked out music to listen to, and his music choices were good. But really over all, surprisingly it was a really good date. We talked about family, about people getting married really quick, and he thinks if your REALLY in love marriage can happen FAST. I disagree. I need time. He asked a lot about my photography, and really seemed to want to get to know me. He surprised me, and to be honest I am still trying to figure him out. He was touchy, in a good way, that made me feel he was at least interested and having fun. I was smiling at the end of the night so that's a very good sign. We had a couple of beers, and around 9:30 we called it a night, walked back to my car(holding hands) and we said good bye. (oh and he kissed me goodnight *insert smile*)


Five things I learned about him--
1. He's a only child.
2. He DOESN'T like Asia food. waa waa waa.
3. He likes golf.
4. He doesn't like to be alone.
5. He doesn't text very often at all(hes not a very tech savvy guy)

Memorable Conversation--
He asked me if I would ever consider taking nude photos of someone. Which I just find odd to ask on a first date. Granted we were talking about my photography, but that question could have been skipped.

The Verdict--

If he asked(one of the rules is I can't ask) me out on a second date I would
for sure go out with him again. But I am not going to worry or think more about it, because it was fun, and this is what the project is all about, me having fun and enjoying my time. But I have to say this date made me realize I need to say yes more often and not worry if it sounds "perfect" or not. Because what I thought was going to be a bad date really turned into a good night. Lesson #1 learned.

I got this note pad a couple of weeks ago at the book store. 
Thought it was totally appropriate for this project>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

If you have questions or more you would like to know for each date PLEASE ask :)

Rules/Guidelines

So I thought it would be good/fun to have a few Rules/Guidelines--

1. A first date must happen at least every other week. (26 dates for the year)
2. Taking someone home after a drunken night does NOT count, otherwise this challenge would just be slutty, and that's TOTALLY not me! :)
3. Second and third dates are allowed, BUT I must continue first dates.
4. I can't make the first move after the first date, no texting or calling till he does FIRST.
5. I can't bring up the topic of a second date, he MUST ask. 
6. EVERY  date must be blogged, good or bad!
7.  The guy must pick the place, and I CAN"T change it..

The most Frequently Asked Question--

The question I'm most asked about this blog is 'what happens if I meet someone I really like?' Well the simple answer is, that would be the end of the project! I love the idea of writing this blog for the whole year of good and bad dates, but if the right person came along, that's a sacrifice I'm VERY happy to make. I don't have to complete the challenge, ideally I'd love to meet someone before the year is through, but as I'm discovering, that's easier said than done...